Jason and I regularly fight over my vacation time. Or as he sees it, my lack of vacation time.
Jason feels that employees should be allowed to take vacation time whenever they feel it's needed. Note I said take, not ask for vacation time, because asking should not be necessary, one should be able to approach their boss and say "Hey Bob, I'm going to be gone on the third Friday in November" and the only acceptable answer from Boss Bob is "Whatever you say Jimbo!" complete with a smile full of sparkly white teeth and a wink of the eye.
My theory on vacation time runs a little more conservation than his. I feel I should be able to approach Boss Bob and ask if I may have the third Friday in November off, and if Boss Bob says no, we're too busy that day, then I should see about rescheduling my trip. Now if Boss Bob says no for some reason that makes no sense, I might plead my case, but if it's an honest reason why I can't go (i.e. There are only two people in my office and we are really busy that darn third Friday of November) then I'm really sorry, but I can't go.
I think our views on vacation time come from working in two very different worlds. Jason's being the tech world and mine being the nonprofit and retail world. In the tech world the employees are put on gold-leafed pedestals and presented with sweaters made out of unicorn hair. My world looks at its employees and sees people that can be replaced pretty easily and probably for less money than the current person is making. I'm a dime a dozen, Jason is scarcer than pictures of Suri Cruise (you know, Tom Cruise's kid? I don't really think she exists)
I can understand why Jason thinks having to ask for vacation time is crazy. Tech companies have spolied him, seeing as they are one of the few industries that fully embrace the idea that happy employees produce better. If taking vacation whenever makes employees happy, then that's how tech companies are going to roll.
Am I upset by that I have to request vacation time? No, it makes sense to me. I work in a small office. If everyone took vacation whenever they wanted we could get really screwed. I have a good work ethic and wouldn't take vacation during a busy time but you can't guarantee that every employee will, and this is why it's important to have to make a request.
Anyway, as I mentioned this is a constant arguement in our household. I don't think I'm wrong and Jason doesn't think he's wrong. This fight will never end. At least not until I retire.