Monday, September 28, 2009

outcome not as expected

Saturday I packed up the breast pump and headed out for my first day away from Truman. Brace yourself for this next confession: I loved my day away from him. Don't get me wrong, I missed the kid like crazy, but the day was super awesome fun. I went to BlogHer Food because you know, I'm nothing if not a food blogger.

Okay, so yeah, not really a food blogger in the slightest bit, but I do read an insane number of food blogs and a lot of the panels could apply to any type of blog, so I decided to go. This decision worked out really well as I learned quite a bit (mostly that I am a blogging slacker) and I met and got to get drunk hang out with some amazing people.

The day started with Tracy and I heading up from the South Bay together. Once we checked in, we found Whitney and Megan. And then, around lunch time, we picked up a fifth: Joy the Baker. This was an incredible group of people to spend the day with as I don't think I've laughed as hard, or as often, as I did on Saturday in a really long time. By the end of the night, as we sat in the hotel room giggling over things that could only be funny to a group of drunks, it felt like we had all known each other forever.

I honestly think the reason I didn't spend the day upset with myself for leaving Truman was because of the fun I was having with these girls. They helped me feel like my old self and at this point that feeling was really what I needed. Sunday and today I didn't think about clothes or going to the gym. Today I was content to be at home taking care of Truman because I had been able to spend a day relaxing and just thinking of the glasses of champagne in front of me and not trying to remember when I had last changed a diaper or fed the kid. The day away from Truman did more to remind me that I am still myself than any hour on a treadmill ever could and feeling confident that I'm still me actually made me a better mom today.

I bought my conference ticket thinking I would go and hear some incredibly talented food bloggers talk and I did do that, but I also ended up making some new friends who really helped me feel confident as a mom. That alone was so worth the price of my ticket. Thank you BlogHer for creating a situation where I got to meet this ladies and thank you ladies for giving me confidence.


  1. alone time is a vital ingredient in being a good mother. this i heartily believe.

    i love megan's blog, that's awesome you hung out with her. i feel like a giddy schoolgirl.

  2. when Anaïs was 6 weeks old Gannon and I left her overnight with my dads and went camping up in Oregon. More than one of my friends raised their eyebrows...I missed her so much it literally hurt my heart but at the same time I felt free and then, of course, (in true mothering fashion) felt guilty about that.....but we need time away, time to remember ourselves outside of mothering. It's such an intense identity shift, and if you're like me (and I think you are) you need to remind yourself of who you were so you don't lose yourself completely. Glad to you had fun! Sounds like a good day.

  3. I really wanted to go to BlogHer Food. Because ONCE in a blue moon I write about food for work. And, then of course they would have paid for it all. NEXT YEAR.

  4. We need to plan more "Regan Needs a Break" days! And make jparks babysit more.

  5. yes- what whitney said! and i hope to be included in some of those festivities! xoox
    can't wait for lunch!

  6. Did you see any cool Gluten Free stuff?

  7. I think no matter what stage in life you're in its important to connect with friends and have fun... it helps keep you balanced so everything else stays in perspective.
    btw - Thanks for letting me crash your lunch table on Saturday.

  8. ladyface! i'm so dang glad i met you! can i come up and do your laundry and hold your baby all day while you sleep or run or... just sit and do nothing. seriously. i'd do that for you. of course, i'll probably have to blog about it, cause i'm weird like that... but honestly. just say the word. i'm there. it won't we weird.

  9. I think getting a break is KEY to being a good parent and while I'm not a parent myself, I think anyone who says otherwise is a liar.

    Glad you got away and had a great time! Just because you have a child doesn't mean you aren't allowed to do things for yourself every now and again!

  10. I'm so glad you went, and I'm so glad that you had fun! You look absolutely *amazing*----you never would guess you just gave birth.

    I'm already looking forward to the 1/2 marathon! I can't wait to run again.

    xoox steph